Originally published April 2011
In my writing and speaking I focus on the positive aspects of life, not only to be motivational, but to inspire those that are battling obesity to take charge of their own lack of self-control and in turn take command of their lives.
Often times I have been accused of being unfair, unfeeling or uncaring. Of the three, the most often accusation leveled at me is that I am unfair.
I am criticized for not understanding the plight of those who are obese. I am attacked for not supporting groups like the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance or worse for not be welcoming of their mission statement which reads; NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people.
Look at some of my before pictures. I was an unhealthy, unfit and an undesirable three hundred and forty pounds. What my detractors don’t understand, or perhaps just don’t like, is the fact that I shed my victim status and took responsibility for my deplorable physical condition.
As far as improving quality of life — the best way to improve quality of life is to shed body fat and embrace a fit lifestyle. I do not require, nor do I desire, an organization to justify my lack of inner strength nor to propose legislation to force others to make accommodations for my lack of discipline.
There are others outside the world of weight loss and fitness who just as wholeheartedly promote people to embrace victim status. WILK’s afternoon entertainer Steve Corbett jumps to mind as the leading local voice attempting to convince listeners that other people are responsible for both their lot in life and their salvation.
In any setting the victimizers are all the same. They promote themselves as being the defenders of certain individuals, when in fact, they exploit those individuals to further their agenda.
The victimizers not only want, but need us to accept the role as victim. Their own self worth, advancement of their ideals and excuses for their own weakness requires that their target audience scapegoat others for their predicaments. The victimizers entire sense of self is dependent upon the victimization of the masses. Without people accepting victim status, they have no audience — and in turn, possess no tangible self worth.
In the battle over obesity, how can you no longer be a victim? In the absence of an underlying medical condition, accept the fact that you and your choices are responsible for your current condition. Once you accept that it is your choices and your responses to situations that led you to where you are — resolve to no longer be a victim of those particular choices.
I have written about two amazing young people; Stephanie Jallen and Bethany Hamilton. Both of these young people could very well have been the victims of circumstance. Yet, these women made a choice that they would NOT be victims. They would not simply overcome their situations, but they would succeed because of what others would perceive as limitations. They did not blame others for what happened to them. They accepted what fate had delivered into their lives and have gone on to great achievements.
What is most fascinating about these two incredible individuals is that they made their decisions not to be victims at young ages. Stephanie was nine years old when she embarked on her dream of being a champion paralympic skier and Bethany was thirteen when she decided to not allow the loss of an arm to derail her dreams to be a champion surfer. Read that again; one person was nine the other thirteen years old. They chose how they would respond to adversity before they were even old enough to drive a car.
Can we as adults learn from the examples of those so young?
Is there a situation so bleak that it requires unhealthy eating?
Are we able to overcome simple laziness to reach our fitness goals?
The answers are yes, no and yes. We are capable of learning, we are intelligent enough to realize that food will not solve the problems and we can be resolute to overcome laziness.
However, those who promote victimization would tell you just the opposite.
They do not want you to believe in yourself.
They do not want you to accept individual responsibility and perhaps most importantly, they do not want you to believe that you as an individual can conquer your own inner demons.
There are no more malevolent persons than those that want you to be convinced that your fate, your position or your condition is the fault of someone other than yourself. The evil resides in their desire for you to stay overweight, out of shape and down and out simply to justify their existence.
Say no to being victimized.
Say no to the vicitmizers.
Say no to being a victim.
Life is lived in color, but sometimes the answers remain black and white.
Aloha, Ciao and Stay Healthy,
Sometimes The Bastard Returns is available on Amazon.com
For over three and half years I maintained a 130 pound weight loss, then last year I lost my way and found a relapse in obesity. I am discussing my battle with recidivism.
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