Since I am between my office and patients during practice hours, I usually hear good portions of the various shows and I am on and off the web with some frequency. Hours of listening to, or reading about, how awful the world is, how bad people are, and how sorry our lot in life is, can drain even the most positive attitude.
As many times as I have discussed with people, or have done it myself, it never ceases to amaze me the power of cutting negative influences from our lives. It really should be a no brainer. Negativity begets negativity, producing overall negative results.
I have advised people to get negative people out of their lives. However, that is not always easily accomplished in personal relationships — but it is easy when it comes to negative people whom we invite into our lives via the airwaves or our personal computers — change the station, close the web window or switch off the device.
On my web site Fat Then Fit Now, and in my writings, I mention the 3′s:
The 3 D’s — Desire, Determination and Discipline as the keys to remodeling one’s body and recapturing one’s health.
The 3 E’s — Three E’s; Eating, Exercise and Energy. The Energy component being mental energy.
Together, these two triads are the keys to success in becoming a physically fit and healthy individual.
The D’s and E’s must be given equal effort to achieve our goals. While none of the 3′s are more essential than the other, a lack of positive mental energy can cause you to falter and interfere with the triads of support.
Energy is about our mindset. Our mental energy allows every other aspect to fall into place. If mental energy is off kilter, it can adversely impact the other legs of the triangle, causing a complete, catastrophic collapse.
There are only two types of energy; positive and negative. Each usually gives rise to one of two outcomes — positive energy produces positive results and negative energy gives negative results.
The rigors of daily life can get in our way, and before we know it, our mental energy is being thrown out of balance. We may be doing everything else correctly, but our results aren’t what we expect.
What is going on?
What are we doing wrong?
It is then we must recall that all three must be equal to achieve the desired outcomes.
Recently, my mind and body were both tired and drained — I just didn’t know it. And next thing I knew, my eating and exercise faltered and fell by the wayside, and I was not being as productive as I should have been.
I am often reminded of the battle between positive versus negative energy when I have taken long weekends in the past to either The Florida Keys, or Southern California.
Five days of no news, no talk radio, no internet, no business worries and in general no negative influences really recharged my mental batteries.
Florida Keys – Sunset (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Additionally, just being in Southern California or Florida, compared
English: Photo of a sunset on the Beach in Venice, California (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
to Northeast Pennsylvania, there is a palpable difference in attitude. The sunshine, warm temperatures and proximity to the ocean allow a variety of outdoor activities. It was my experience and conclusion that people there, even in tough economic times, have a much more positive outlook on life. That positive vibe rubs off on everyone who is there.
When I return to Pennsylvania, this renewed energy translated into some incredible workouts. I attacked the weights with vim and vigor, relishing the feel of cold iron in the palms of my hands.
The exercises are the same, but the poundages are a little heavier and the pace a little quicker and the results — exponentially superior.
This simple, yet noticeable, difference in my workouts, are what me re-aware of the influence of energy. I have taken steps to ensure that my energy remains positive.
- I make sure to start my day with a smile.
- I have resolved to no longer to complain.
- I shrug off the mundane, minor, minuscule annoyances that tend to degrade my disposition.
I have also stopped listening to so much talk radio, visiting certain web blogs/sites and reading too in-depth into the news. I scan the paper, and if I feel something is important, I will delve deeper into the subject. I am no longer obsessed with each bit of minutia that is being reported. I discovered on my long weekends, that by not reading the paper, not watching the news, not being connected to the web, and not listening to talk radio — nothing changed. My being aware had absolutely zero influence.
We should always strive to make each day full of positive energy. When someone complains, smile and make an excuse to remove ourselves from the conversation. If negative thoughts enter our heads, we should think about all we have that is good. In my case, if I start to feel sorry for myself, I remember my trips to places like the Philippines, were I saw some of the worst poverty I have ever witness, and force myself to realize that no matter how bad it seems, my life is pretty dam good.
Energy must be positive. I am not saying we are never going to get down. I am not saying we should never get upset. There are real life issues that will influence our mood. However, we can change so much just by changing our attitude and outlook. It takes just as much effort to smile and say hello, as it does to look away and grunt. But the result of a smile is much more positive, not only for one’s self, but for the person on the receiving end.
We must ask ourselves:
- Will worrying about something change it?
- Will losing sleep change it?
- Will not working out change it?
- Will overeating change it?
In all likelihood, all of the above will only be more deleterious to the situation and our health.
When possible, cut out negative influences, don’t become obsessed and worried about that which we have little control over. When it comes to controlling elements around us, we really can’t.
We can’t control the weather, world affairs or other people, however, we can control how we react. We can choose the manner in which we respond.
I tell all of my clients — the only thing we can control is what we put into their bodies and the amount of exercise we put out. I also tell them the only person we can control is the one that stares back at us from the mirror.
We can be positive or we can be negative — the choice is ours — the results are obvious.
Aloha, Ciao, and Stay Healthy
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